active listening refers to a pattern of listening that keeps you engaged with your conversation partner in a positive way. you listen with all of your senses and give your full attention to the person speaking. active listening serves the purpose of earning the trust of others and helping you to understand their situations. it allows you to understand the point of view of another person and respond with empathy. being an active listener in a relationship means that you recognize that the conversation is more about your partner than about you. in addition, active listening helps relationships in that you will be less likely to jump in with a “quick fix” when the other person really just wants to be heard. when you listen actively, the other person is also likely to speak to you for a longer time.
lisa: i’m sorry to dump this on you, but i had a fight with my sister and we haven’t spoken since. maybe a bit guilty that she had all these plans and i was the one holding them back. if you develop your active listening skills, you will improve your conversational ability. but don’t expect that to help reduce any symptoms of anxiety you normally feel in social situations. the following are some tips to help you with this situation: active listening is an important social skill that has value in a variety of social settings. if you find it hard to engage in active listening, consider whether there might be something getting in the way, such as social anxiety or problems with inattention. 2016;9:175-184. simon c. the functions of active listening responses. active-empathic listening as a general social skill: evidence from bivariate and canonical correlations. western journal of communication.